Living With Roommates

Ways to Prevent Conflict

Discuss rules and standards for the apartment.
Set standards for cleanliness, visitors, quiet hours, etc. If these are discussed early on, they can prevent a conflict situation from arising. A healthy living situation involves respect for all roommates.
Be willing to work together to compromise. Once a compromise is made, work towards keeping your promises.
Communication: Successful relations are built on communication. If you are having an issue, communicate the issue to your roommates in a mature, respectful manner. By addressing situations early on, you are preventing a major conflict later on down the road.

Give "I" messages and not "you" messages.
Take responsibility for your feelings to avoid blaming others.
Learn to listen to the speaker as if you were a mediator or counselor.
Ask questions to encourage the other person to help look for a solution.
Speak slowly and calmly. Take deep breaths to relax.
Keep your legs and arms uncrossed, and don't clench your fists. This gives the signal that you are emotional and irrational.
If necessary, ask for a short break to regain composure and recollect your feelings.

This content is from "Living with Roommates," provided by Loyola University Maryland Office of Student Conduct. For more helpful resources for student and information on the student conduct process, visit the Office of Student Conduct.